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Anyone who heard the term Retail Therapy knows
what I will be referring to in this article.
Those who don’t know the term, may still have experienced the pleasure
that is given by treating ourselves buying things for our own use and purpose,
particularly if we do not need them.
Most people have indulged in some needless purchasing on
occasions. We may do it if we had a hard
day at work, if we are upset about something, if we have had some unusual
stressful situation to contend with, and so on.
People with a balanced and fulfilled emotional life will
seldom do this, and thoroughly enjoy it.
There are those, however, who constantly crawl from shop to shop, from
website to website, from credit card to credit, to support the need they have
to shop.
These are people who feel that nobody is going to reward
them, so they reward themselves by buying clothes to make them feel better.
They have a hope that if they buy this clothing it will feel and look great, or
they spend on some furniture, or kictchen appliances, they will be satisfied.
Unfortunately, the underlying reason for their incessant
shopping is that they don't like themselves. so as soon as they try the clothes on and look
in the mirror they don't like what they see so get deflated and sad. They put
the clothes in the wardrobe as out of sight is out of mind.
As they put the clothes or accessories away they need to buy
wardrobe after wardrobe full of things with their labels on. They are so
grateful to have friends that they are always trying to buy them. If a friend
says that they like that clothing the shopaholic will immediately ask them to
try it on and say that it looks better on you so please have it.
User and manipulator friends will get as much as they can
wheedle out of the shopaholic by flattering them. Just see how flattering they
would be if they were refused! When the shopaholic suggests a night out the
shopaholic pays the bill and says it's their treat.
It takes care and love for these people to heal, and after
healing they get their confidence back and I advise them to put a price on each
item and have a sale at home. Watch to see what friends come and ask if they
can have the item for free " as we are friends" and that will show
who are real friends.
From the proceeds from the sale including the wardrobes!
they can either pay their credit cards off or give it to charity.
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